One of the most difficult things about men is our silence. Men tend to be more stoic and sullen at times. Of course, this doesn't apply to every man but to the idea of "men in general".
What makes us so quiet? Why is it we most often think what we believe before we say what we believe instead of saying what we want to say and then determining what we think by listening to our words?
In every man there is a degree of uncertainty. We live in a world that has changed and many of us haven't caught up to the change. We were told how we should respond to women but find our response being taken as condescending and paternalistic. We thought we understood what it meant to be successful but then have discovered that success is not measured by the power of our force but by the subtlety of our interaction. Especially, this is true for Caucasian men. We are lost in a world of rising expectations with people of other races being given honors and awards we have expected to come to us.
We are confused about gender roles in a world where women often take on the pose of men and act in a manner that is unexpected and aggressive/assertive.
When it comes to spiritually is become very confusing to us. We are like Abraham who had the idea that sacrificing his first born son Isaac was the right things to do and he was prepared to do it.
Male spirituality begins with the importance of silence. We are not speaking because we don't have that much to say. We are looking deeply into our souls trying to figure out who we are and what our role is in a world that has changed and the change is beyond our capacity of know what to do.
Do the women who read this blog understand this about the men in their lives? Do the men who read this blog grasp the truth in these observations?
To understand male spirituality we have to begin with an understanding of the silence of a man and the reasons for it.
What do you think?
Write me at charlesschuster@fcfumc.net. If you are willing to have others read your thoughts click on the 'comments' box below.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Charles Schuster
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